5

Gender Queer

Maia Kobabe
Book
January
2025

Review:

I don’t have the words to describe how much this book means to me. I knew it would hit close to home, which is probably why I waited so long to read it. While I myself don’t identify as much with the gender questions (sort of), I felt the questions on sexuality and the lack thereof deep in my soul. As a queer asexual aromantic individual, the presence of this in media is vital. It is not a fictionalized, glorified view of sexuality; no, it showed every part. The good, the bad, and the confusing were all shown with such impeccable detail that I forgot I was reading a comic and not just talking to someone. This is a highly controversial book, and I do see why. It has a frankness about sex that I don’t see anywhere else (except maybe in some romance novels). But as long as it is properly shelved in adult comics or nonfiction, it is entirely appropriate. I feel like more kids should be reading this, seeing themselves in such a real way. And shame on anyone who says otherwise, especially those trying to ban it. I see myself in this comic, and so will thousands of others, and that should be enough. But unfortunately, it’s not.

Trigger Warnings:
Blood, Bugs, Depictions of menstruation, Pap smears, & urination Feces, Gender dysphoria, Harry Potter references, Homophobia, Incest, People are depicted shipping two fictional brothers, Medication, Nudity, Sex (oral, on-page), Snakes, Transphobia (some internalized)

Synopsis From Book:

In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maia's intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortification and confusion of adolescent crushes, grappling with how to come out to family and society, bonding with friends over erotic gay fanfiction, and facing the trauma of pap smears. Started as a way to explain to eir family what it means to be nonbinary and asexual, Gender Queer is more than a personal story: it is a useful and touching guide on gender identity—what it means and how to think about it—for advocates, friends, and humans everywhere.
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